Commitment-Phobic Men

So many men these days tend to have serious commitment issues. These men have no issues with dating one woman for a while. They may even take over a drawer in your dresser and leave a toothbrush and razor in your bathroom. Then, one day, you decide that it may be a great idea if he just moves in with you, but when you bring it up, his response is that he feels that maybe the two of you are moving too quickly. He feels that you two need to take a break and see other people for a while.

This can mean a couple of different things. He may have already met someone else that he’s interested in dating and was just waiting for a time to tell you. However, when you brought up the moving in thing, it gave him the perfect opportunity to put the brakes on things with you and move on to the next one.

Something else it can mean is that he’s horribly commitment shy and he sees moving in together as a commitment of sorts. He probably feels that while it’s not marriage, it may be a stepping stone to that much more serious commitment. In this case, there’s nothing you could have done that was going to make this connection turn into a true relationship. You’ve hit on one of his true fears or phobias just by inviting him to move in with you.

Chances are, with either of these scenarios, you’ll most likely never hear from him or see him again. He’s going to get as far away from you as possible because you’ve made it clear in a subtle way that you expect something from him that he’s not prepared to give. He’s certainly not ready now, with you, and he may never be ready to make a serious commitment in his entire life.

There are many men that don’t ever plan on getting married and they’re happy to be lifelong bachelors. Single women would do well to steer clear of them because no matter what they may think, they’ll most likely not be playing Annette Benning to their Warren Beatty. The best thing that you can do when you first meet a man that you find fascinating is to subtly find out what his views are on marriage and commitment. If you’re the marrying type and he’s not, you’ll want to move on quickly and not invest any time or emotion into this man. He’s only going to break your heart.

On the other hand, if you’re a bit commitment phobic yourself, these are the perfect men for you to get involved with. You’ll both have lots of fun and probably amazing sex, and then you’ll move on when the novelty wears off.  Only you can decide whether you must have a solid commitment from someone or not, but hopefully, this is a decision you make before you start dating him. In that way, you can both avoid a lot of hurt and guilt feelings.

Relationship Stages

Relationships don’t just pop up out of nowhere. They’re begun, nurtured and maintained. The stages of a relationship are:

1. The Attraction Stage
2. The Adaptation Stage
3. The Courtship Stage
4. The Conflict Stage
5. The Responsibility Stage

Each of the stages offers a necessary aspect to every couple’s connection to each other. These stages shape the views of the couples regarding interpersonal relations and they decide how well the couple can handle their bond.

Couples must complete each stage in order for it to be an authentic relationship. You can’t go skipping cycles or it’s not a true relationship. Some couples may pass through the stages instantly, or they may linger on certain stages for a long time. It takes a different timetable for each couple to learn what they need to from each stage.

Couple can also move to and from stages but never quite get them right. Sadly, these stages are forever sabotaged.  In fact, a connection can happen with one stage with the couple deciding that there’s no reason to move to the rest of them. However, that gives them a bit of a stalled relationship and one that never fully develops.

All of the stages are important when it comes to enhancing the bond of the couple. They decide how long the connection will last as well as how strong it is. In addition, each of the stages brings useful things to the relationship. They shape the emotions of the couples as well as determine how mature it will be.

All aspects of the couple’s different personalities are uncovered through these stages. The process also molds the coping mechanisms of a couple at some point. These are the stages that continuously show couples that relationships are both pleasant as well as troublesome. Each stage can offer joy and pain while still allowing the couple to get something from a unique experience. Of course, it can be incredibly rewarding making up after an argument.

Every couple must pass successfully through each of the relationship stages before making a lifetime commitment to each other. If they want a chance at a successful marriage, they must make sure they’ve gone through each stage and learned everything they can from it. Every stage is a period of soul-searching that offers the couple a chance to think about whether the relationship is worth having or not.

Each stage can be significantly designed so that couples will know the consequences of their reactions to things in that stage. They also grant the couples a deeper awareness of strengths and weaknesses. Decision making abilities are also challenged. These stages show whether or not the responses of each partner are acceptable to the other.

Think of the relationship stages as a road map that couples can use while traveling to a more intimate and passionate connection.  This “roadmap” functions in much the same way as tour guides in guiding couples to a lasting connection. They keep couples aware that they must invest a lot of time, effort and even money to make relationships successful.