Great Secret Places for Meeting Men

Single women are always on the hunt for great places to meet the best kind of men. There are the usual places, of course, but there are also others that are somewhat well-kept secrets. Following are some of those secret places to meet men:

• Conventions: This doesn’t mean your work conventions. These are FUN conventions such as Comic-Con or Star Trek. Many women have found men at these types of conventions to be very grateful and lavishing of attention. If you’re up for a change of pace in dating, try attending one of these and see what happens.
• Theme Night at bars: Trying to meet men at bars has been done to death. On the other hand, Bingo Night at the local bar is another thing altogether. Not only is Bingo fun to play, but there will be people from neighboring communities that will be there to take part in the challenge. You can find plenty of new men to flirt with at these events.
• Weddings: While this should be an obvious way to meet men, most of the women at weddings are focusing too hard on catching that elusive bouquet so they miss the great looking single men in attendance. If women would just go over and interrupt that huddle of men at the bar, there’s a great chance that they’ll find some handsome men that want to dance with them. Besides, you can bet that the bride has already pre-approved any men attending her wedding.
• Recovery programs: All over the country people gather at weekly meetings to help them with various addictions. In these meetings, some couples connect on a deeper level and turn that connection into something much more. Don’t assume that recovering addicts are always bad for each other.
• Jogging or Running: A method that rarely fails to work is also one that gets your body healthier. When you’re performing warm-ups or waiting for the light to change, there are always a few male joggers also warming up or waiting. Don’t blow your chance when you get it to chat up a great looking man that’s also jogging.
• Move to Alaska: If you’re a single woman seeking a single man, consider relocating to Alaska. This state is apparently a gold mine of single men. You may not even have to completely MOVE there. If you’ve got a week or two of vacation that you can use to visit Alaska; that may be all you’ll need to meet the man of your dreams.

Any or all of these places can be excellent when it comes to meeting available men, if for no other reason than that the majority of women haven’t discovered them yet. The odds will also probably be in your favor because some of these places have many more men than women. If moving to or visiting Alaska is out of your realm of feasibility, start with some of the simpler places. On a final note, you should keep in mind that anytime you visit somewhere new, you’ve got an increased chance of meeting that man for you.

Commitment-Phobic Men

So many men these days tend to have serious commitment issues. These men have no issues with dating one woman for a while. They may even take over a drawer in your dresser and leave a toothbrush and razor in your bathroom. Then, one day, you decide that it may be a great idea if he just moves in with you, but when you bring it up, his response is that he feels that maybe the two of you are moving too quickly. He feels that you two need to take a break and see other people for a while.

This can mean a couple of different things. He may have already met someone else that he’s interested in dating and was just waiting for a time to tell you. However, when you brought up the moving in thing, it gave him the perfect opportunity to put the brakes on things with you and move on to the next one.

Something else it can mean is that he’s horribly commitment shy and he sees moving in together as a commitment of sorts. He probably feels that while it’s not marriage, it may be a stepping stone to that much more serious commitment. In this case, there’s nothing you could have done that was going to make this connection turn into a true relationship. You’ve hit on one of his true fears or phobias just by inviting him to move in with you.

Chances are, with either of these scenarios, you’ll most likely never hear from him or see him again. He’s going to get as far away from you as possible because you’ve made it clear in a subtle way that you expect something from him that he’s not prepared to give. He’s certainly not ready now, with you, and he may never be ready to make a serious commitment in his entire life.

There are many men that don’t ever plan on getting married and they’re happy to be lifelong bachelors. Single women would do well to steer clear of them because no matter what they may think, they’ll most likely not be playing Annette Benning to their Warren Beatty. The best thing that you can do when you first meet a man that you find fascinating is to subtly find out what his views are on marriage and commitment. If you’re the marrying type and he’s not, you’ll want to move on quickly and not invest any time or emotion into this man. He’s only going to break your heart.

On the other hand, if you’re a bit commitment phobic yourself, these are the perfect men for you to get involved with. You’ll both have lots of fun and probably amazing sex, and then you’ll move on when the novelty wears off.  Only you can decide whether you must have a solid commitment from someone or not, but hopefully, this is a decision you make before you start dating him. In that way, you can both avoid a lot of hurt and guilt feelings.